Bridesmaid not Bride~ God Mother and not Mom

October 10, 2018



    2018 I have seen many of my friends enter a new phase in life.  I was there as two of my best friends married the loves of their lives.  I have been asked many times if I am tired of being a bridesmaid. My response has always been -no.  I have seen firsthand from my friends that the planning and execution of a wedding is really no JOKE and takes a lot of patience.  I salute all brides and am in no hurry to become one.  It is not just because of the planning.  I am selfish and I do not think I am ready to share half of the bathroom counter space just yet.  However, because I have been in a few weddings, I do have thoughts of what life will look like for me in the next 2-3 years.   Is it marriage and babies or will I be chilling alone at home in a robe with my cat? *Screams internally* 



I also became a godmother of two babies!  Krissy loves the kids!  I am super excited about this role.  Don’t believe me?  Just check my shopping cart on Amazon(my godsons birthday is around the corner).  It is filled with toys and learning activities.  I have always had reservations about having kids.  I have been focused on my career and other goals.  I wanted to do everything I wanted to do, go everywhere I wanted to go and be everything I wanted to be before having kids.  Being a godmother (and aunt) gives me the opportunity to get a glimpse inside motherhood.  Some of it looks good and other things makes me want to take a double dose of Yaz. 


Do I feel pressured to be in a different space?  No.  Do I feel like I am missing out?  Absolutely not.  The reality for me is that it is okay to be right where I am at this very moment.  I at one point began to feel pressured with what others around me were doing and what the social media clock projected for 30 year old women.  I have sense come to realize things happen on God's timing, yes you need to get in a position to receive those changes, but there is no need for me to rush anything.  When it happens I will fully embrace it and be the best that I can be in both areas.



~Do you feel any pressures to be a different version of yourself based on your surroundings or what society may tell you? 












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